Accountability – who is your wingman?

You know it occurred to me I just have not spent enough time with my wingmen.  That more than anything causes me to look forward to this Saturday.  I picked up my Bible the other day and one thing I usually do not do is just open it up and start reading.  And one book in the bible I rarely turn to is Jude.  But that is exactly what happened.

As you may know this year I am reading the Life Recovery Bible.  It is chock full of 12 step principles, devotionals, reflections and profiles.  This recovery principle devotional spoke to me and so I thought I would share it.  We all have our addictions.  They can be the “popular” addictions like alcohol, drugs, pornography, sex and gambling.  There are also addictions not so popular like approval, codependency, internet and shopping. 

I have to admit to some extent I am subject to all of these addictions in varying degrees and I am in a continuous state of “recovery”.  Praise God that currently I am  in ‘remission’.  That is why wingmen, accountability partners, brothers in the Lord and our wives are so important.  So here goes.  This is taken from the Life Recovery Bible.

“As we grapple with our addiction we are likely to avoid honest communication with others about our problems.  It is important, however, that we return to the relationship that will help us face the truth.   Paul spoke of the value of honesty; “So put away all falsehood and ‘tell your neighbor the truth’ because we belong to each other” (Ephesians 4:25).  Jude, the half brother of Jesus, reminded his readers that they were to deal honestly and directly with those who were doing wrong:  “Show mercy to those whose faith is wavering…There are still others to whom you need to show mercy, but be careful that you aren’t contaminated by their sins”  (Jude 1:22-23).

Jesus even gave specific instructions for dealing with people who have done wrong but persist in denying it:  “If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the fault.  If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.  But if you are unsucccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses.  If that person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church.  If the church decides you are right, but the other person won’t accept it, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector”  (Matthew 18:15-17).

Accountability and honesty in our relationships are essential to successful recovery.  When we make ourself accountable to others, the caring influence of godly friends can help keep us on the right track.  They can provide us with an objective perespective, helping us to admit the truth.  We often become isolated as a result of our shame or fear that we will be rejected if we ever reveal who we really are.  Admimtting our wrongs to trustworthy people helps break down the isolation.” 

 (This is me again)…With the study I did recently on confession in preparation for last August’s “Surrender Sunday” I had to re-rexamine myself again and again.  The Holy Spirit brought some things to me that I had buried for over 35 years that really weren’t all that big of a deal, but I did feel sorrow that I had hurt someone and I have repented.  I am not able to make amends as this person has passed on but I have confessed this to another.  We must regularily invite God to examine our hearts and minds so that we can come to Him in the way he has designed us to be.  HIS…. 


1 Comment »

  1. The Pudgeman Said:

    Wingmen are vital to our spiritual growth. I know that I depend on my regularly! Thanks for the reminder. B4T

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