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Do Good Anyway…

You know it occurred to me…  Do Good anyway.

I had the pleasure of attending Don Ossenheimer’s retirement party yesterday at the UM.  I went incognito in my blue and yellow coat so as to not arouse any suspicions.  They had cake and shrimp.  Don got a signed plaque.  The were lots of people there.  There were remarks and there was one speech.  I also had a brownie.  Yum.

  I forget who quoted Mother Teresa.  It may have been during his speech or during the “remarks” but that stuck with me and here it it…

1. The version found written on the wall in Mother Teresa’s home for children in Calcutta:

              People are often unreasonable, irrational, and self-centered.  Forgive them anyway.

            If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.  Be kind anyway.

            If you are successful, you will win some unfaithful friends and some genuine enemies.  Succeed anyway.

            If you are honest and sincere people may deceive you.  Be honest and sincere anyway.

            What you spend years creating, others could destroy overnight.  Create anyway.

            If you find serenity and happiness, some may be jealous.  Be happy anyway.

            The good you do today, will often be forgotten.  Do good anyway.

         Give the best you have, and it will never be enough.  Give your best anyway.

         In the final analysis, it is between you and God.  It was never between you and them anyway.

-this version is credited to Mother Teresa

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2. The Original Version:

The Paradoxical Commandments

by Dr. Kent M. Keith

  1. People are illogical, unreasonable, and self-centered.
    Love them anyway.
  2. If you do good, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
    Do good anyway.
  3. If you are successful, you win false friends and true enemies.
    Succeed anyway.
  4. The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.
    Do good anyway.
  5. Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.
    Be honest and frank anyway.
  6. The biggest men and women with the biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest men and women with the smallest minds.
    Think big anyway.
  7. People favor underdogs but follow only top dogs.
    Fight for a few underdogs anyway.
  8. What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.
    Build anyway.
  9. People really need help but may attack you if you do help them.
    Help people anyway.
  10. Give the world the best you have and you’ll get kicked in the teeth.
    Give the world the best you have anyway.

© 1968, 2001 Kent M. Keith

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Hireling and Fireling…NFL style…upandcomers and retreads…

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You know it occurred to me its that time of year when coaches are hired and fired.  The Browns recently hired an unproven tight ends to be their new offensive coordinator with no play calling experience to save the Romeo Regime.  Chud is 38 years old, a native of Toledo, Ohio and grew up a Browns fan.  He is also a former Cleveland and San Diego coach who did not hesitate to pass up the chance to coach LaDanian Tomlinson to come back to be the offensive coordinator for the Cleveland Browns. 

Last year the Browns named Jeff Davidson assistant head coach so he could not leave to become the OC for the NY Jets.  Jeff got his chance to call plays in Cleveland this year for the last 10 games after Maurice Carthon was fired for incompetence.  Jeff did not do a good enough job in Cleveland to be given the OC job but was hired as OC for the Carolina Panthers.  Go figure.  Both of these men are up and comers.  Bright young men who are unproven but something about them has peaked an interest in NFL teams to place their trust in them to run the offense.   The Browns made a run at old standby Dan Henning but after being fired by Carolina he wanted to retire or the situation in Cleveland is too big a mess for him to fix.

That is the conventional wisdom today in the NFL.  Hire an up and comer.  Hire young.  The Steelers hired Mike Timlin, just 34 and only a coordinator for one year.  Eric (Mangenius) Mangini was the youngest and is just 36.  Oakland has just hired a 31 year old to be their next head coach.  Lane Kiffin was assistant coach at USC!  He is the son of a NFL defensive coordinator and there is some precedence to hiring sons of coaches (no pun intended).  The Falcons just fired Jim Mora, son of Jim (PLAYOFFS?) Mora former head coach of the Colts and the Saints.  Mike Nolan (son of Dick Nolan former 49er and Saint coach) is the coach of the San Francisco 49ers.  His Dad also coached the 49ers back in the John Brodie era.  One of the most successful son of a coach is Bill Belichik.  Belichik starting breaking down film at age 5 or so the legend goes.  Belichik has some other things in common with other successful head coaches. He was 39 when Art Modell hired him.

Belichik’s stint with the Patriots is not his first head coaching job.  He had 5 years on the job training with the Browns in the early 90’s.  He failed miserably.  Many feel his failure caused the city the franchise.  No one will no for sure.  Belichik learned from his mistakes, made some changes and 2nd time around he seems to have gotten it right.  Hall of Fame right.  Belichik was also at one time an up and coming hot shot coordinator.

As was Tony Dungy.  Tony was a hot shot up and comer defensive coordinator for the Pittsburgh Steelers when he was hired to turn Tampa Bay around.  And did he.  He turned Tampa from perennial doormat to perennial winner.  Another extremely young Guru off the Bill Walsh coaching tree, Jon Gruden, (also a son of a coach and onetime youngest coach in the NFL) took Dungy’s Bucs to their Super Bowl Win in his second shot at head coaching. 

It also seems to matter what “coaching tree” you fall off of.  Who did you learn under?  There is the Paul Brown coaching tree (Don Shula, Weeb Eubanks, Chuck Noll, Bill Walsh).  There is the Bill Walsh tree, (Sam Wyche, Steve Mariucci, Andy Reid, Mike Sherman, Mike Holmgren).  There is the Bill Parcell’s tree, (Bill Belichik, Romeo Crennel, Sean Peyton, Eric (Mangenius) Mangini.  Tony Dungy fell of the Chuck Noll tree, but the Tony Dungy tree is impressive with 4 current head coaches having coached for Dungy.  They include Herman Edwards, Lovie Smith, Rod Marinelli and now Mike Tomlin.

Both Super Bowl coaches are former hot coordinators.  Lovie Smith tutored under Dungy at Tampa Bay but is not a retread.  I have already mentioned Bill Belichik and Sean Payton.  Andy Reid and Eric Mangini have fallen off coaching trees.  Did I mention Bill Parcells , Herman Edwards and Mike Holmgren?  There you have it, all the playoff coaches from 2006…

 So based on this, if you can find a one time hot assistant coach, whose dad was a coach, fell off a coaching tree and has been fired before, you may have something good on your hands.  If that is so why did Steve Mariucci fail in Detroit?  May have something to do with the GM. Who else?  I bet Mike Martz gets another shot soon as a head coach.  I bet Jim Mora does too.   Will Romeo succeed in Cleveland?  Not likely.  Also not likely he will get another chance.  Romeo is in his late  50’s.  He does not fit the mold.  Nor does Marinelli.  They are too old.

So why did they hire Romeo in Cleveland?  They needed stability.  They needed a steady hand to stop the turmoil.  Will it work, not likely, but the ship has been stabilized, and there is always hope for the future.  So after they fire him next year and Jim Mora is available….Or do you think former hot shot coordinator Bill Cowher will get another chance?  Coaches named Bill seem to have success…(Walsh, Cowher, Belichik)…

 Well, go hire yourself a coach…IMBO…

That’s Snow foolin’! Snow in Tucson!

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You know it occurred to me they may have more snow in Tucson that we do here in Michigan.   Have you noticed how tall and thin this young lady has gotten.  I think we are way over due for a trip to Tucson, don’t you think?  Got to get some snow somehow!!According to my daughter this occurs about once every 15 years. 

Guilt can be warning or burden

“I never go to church because they just try to put me on a guilt trip.”

Ever hear someone say that?

No doubt, it’s true for some people.

Just walking through the door of a church makes them feel guilty, even before a word is spoken.

That could come from bad church experiences or because they are carrying around a lot of guilt that has absolutely nothing to do with church.

At some point, most of us feel guilty about something. That’s because all of us have messed up in some area of our lives.

Dodging guilt doesn’t take it away — just as ignoring a tumor doesn’t stop the cancer from growing.

The tumor may have been caused by smoking or other lousy lifestyle choices. Maybe heredity was the cause. Or maybe it just showed up.

No matter, it’s still a tumor. Ignoring it doesn’t make it go away.

The same is true with guilt.

“My goal is not to make people feel guilty,” said the Rev. Joseph Kraker of St. Vincent Catholic Church. “I know in the past, some churches could do a pretty good job of that. Some preachers on TV do it. But what the church should do is help us deal with guilt.”

He explained that there’s good guilt and bad guilt.

Bad guilt is just beating up ourselves for something for which we have no responsibility. Many of us know someone who was sexually abused and feels some guilt about it — as if he or she asked for it. Or we know someone who has an abusive spouse but thinks: “If I were a better partner, well, then this wouldn’t be happening to me.”

Some people carry around guilt from something done by another member of their family: He’s in jail, so I must have failed. If a child doesn’t quite turn out as we dreamed, we blame ourselves.

The reality is, it’s hard enough to make the right decisions for our own life, much less thinking we can do it for someone else.

I’ve been to church services where the pastor in his sermon complained about all the empty pews. Why make the people who are in church feel guilty because others are not there?

Pastor Joe Coffey of Hudson Community Church said that while in college, he attended a church where women were made to feel guilty if they wore any makeup or dressed nicely. Some churches, he said, may try to increase donations by making people feel guilty for not giving more.

“It’s wrong to use guilt to control people,” Coffey said. “Especially to try and make them do things that are your own agenda, not from the Bible.”

There is another type of guilt.

“Guilt and shame can be the immune system of the soul,” Coffey said. “It’s like getting an infection in your finger. It means something is wrong, and you better look a little deeper.”

Don’t just put a bandage on it; you need a doctor.

“Most of us have some demons to conquer,” Kraker said. “The church can help us admit we have a problem. Sometimes, the good news of the Gospel can cause guilt, because hearing it, we realize that we need to change something. Guilt can be healthy.”

A good church is one that first allows us to feel the guilt and then to experience forgiveness. Not every church does that, just as not every restaurant serves good food. That doesn’t stop most of us from eating out — we just find somewhere else to eat.

“If you start to feel guilty in our church, stay around for a while, and we’ll tell you about forgiveness,” Coffey said. “We’ll help you deal with the guilt and give you a fresh start.”

Kraker said confession serves that purpose in the Catholic church. It allows people to be honest to God, honest with themselves. “God will heal.”

Sometimes, guilt means we need to apologize to someone. Sometimes, guilt means we need to just believe that God has forgiven us and quit confessing the same old failures over and over.

“There’s nothing quite as good as realizing we are forgiven, that we don’t have to feel guilty anymore,” Coffey said. “That’s a big part of what church should be about.”

Terry Pluto can be reached at terrypluto2003@yahoo.com. Sign up for Terry’s free, weekly e-mail newsletter “Direct from Pluto” at www.ohio.com.

Relationships? Did you say relationships?

You know it occurred to me.  In all our relationships, there is only thing in common with all of them.  There are good relationships, broken relationships, strained relationships, reconciled relationships, great relationships, new relationships, family relationships, work relationships, loving relationships, heated relationships, forgotten relationships, abusive relationships, and Godly relationships. 

What is the one thing in common with all of them?  IDYBT – IMBO…

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